The Blame Trap!

Do you find yourself or a loved one caught in the Blame Trap?

The Blame Trap, as I have coined it this is when someone just cannot take responsibility or ownership to the misfortunes that take place in their life. They are caught in a vicious cycle of blaming others for their unfortunate circumstances. Here is an example: Quite a few years back I was on my way to work the afternoon shift. I stopped at the stop sign and looked both ways before I proceeded through the intersection. It was a country setting and the field grass was so tall that my view was slightly obstructed. I didn't see the car that was coming and before I knew it the car collided with my car and we were in an accident. I remember asking the guy from the window if he was alright. He said to me, "Lady you just ruined my life"! Then he proceeded to leave the seen of the accident. I got on my cell phone and called the police. Three days later they found the guy that hit me and the police notified me that he had a warrant out for his arrest. Instead of owning up to his mistakes he decided that I had ruined his life. This is just a small example, most examples you can see on a day to day basis.

It is time to own up to your mistakes! You cannot move forward unless you acknowledge that it is your fault. Are you stuck in poverty, are you always behind the eight ball, are you finding brick walls everywhere you turn? Once you acknowledge that you are the cause for your misfortune, you will be able to fix your problem. Own up to! Then ask yourself how can I change this situation. Listen deeply to your first thoughts. Start to change the way you respond by responding with the first thoughts.

Hopefully this will make sense for you. Remember that you cannot fix or change what you do not acknowledge. Once you acknowledge the problem then find another way to solve it. Obviously the approach you have been using isn't working, so why not try another. Try using your first thoughts. Sit quietly and ask for help. The first thing that pops into your head will be that first thought. Try not to listen to your ego. Your first thought will be something that you would not have imagined of and will always come from a place of love. Your ego will come from a place of fear. This is how you will be able to tell the difference.

If you're the one stuck in the Blame Trap give this a try. If you have a loved one or a friend that is stuck please share this with them. You will be surprised how your life will change when you take responsibility for your thoughts, actions and choices in your life.

Best wishes